What Would It Take to Get a Loving Man?

I got a question from Julie last night. Here’s what she wrote to me: What would it take for me to finally get a man who loves me? Sometimes I think I will be alone forever. – Julie   I hear you, Julie! Fear of being alone forever is a very common fear. In fact, […]


3 Proven Steps to Get Out of Single Life

There was some breaking news on TV but I didn’t care about it. I was sobbing into my pillow. Yet again I was disappointed after a hot date I had previously that night. This time I really thought the guy was different. I really wished he would be different. “Aaaah!” The pillow I threw knocked […]


A Flirting Problem

Here is a message I found in my Facebook mailbox today: I have a flirting problem and every time I flirt with other women my wife cheats on me with different men. How could I fix my marriage?   Dear reader, I believe everybody has a choice in what they do, or don’t do. You […]


Dating After a Divorce: Where to Start

I received another dating question from my reader. She wrote: Hi, Nina! I would like to ask you a question. I’m divorced and want to get out there, but I don’t know how anymore. It’s been 11 years since I’ve dated. Where do I start? Sheryl   Hi! Thank you for your question, Sheryl. Is […]


What Love Languages Do You Speak

Melanie was washing the dishes while Bill was outside washing her car. She sighted quietly. Emptiness in her eyes revealed she was not happy with the relationship. “Cars! He loves those freaking cars more than me! He always talks about them. I don’t care if he changed the damn alternator. I don’t even know what that […]


How to Escape the Singles’ Loop of Despair

I was browsing through one of the FB dating groups the other day. I do that now and then to see whether something has changed since I was looking to meet someone online. In case you are wondering, it hasn’t changed a bit for the last 15 years. As I was perusing the posts, I was […]


Should We Stay Friends After the Break Up?

As you might noticed I’ve added a new column to the site – Your Questions. You can ask me about your relationship struggles or dating dilemma and me and other readers will answer your question or offer you our insights.   Here is what Angele wrote to me: Hello Nina, I have been reading your […]


QUIZ: Are You Trapped in a Singles’ Loop of Despair?

You are single for quite some time now. Even though you are looking (and you are looking hard!) you still can’t meet a decent guy/gal to date. There is always something wrong with them. If you like them they don’t return your calls. Or they are just fooling around. Or they carry excess baggage. Maybe you […]

I Have Never Approached a Girl

The question Brandon sent me is one of the most frequently asked questions on social media. Here it is: I have never approached a girl in my life and my friends are mocking me because of that. Please, help me out. Brandon   Hi, Brandon! I’m not really sure what your problem is. Is it […]

No. 1 Fear When Being Single

I know some singles are struggling with their relationship status and/or their environment. As I’ve explained in this post, they are dealing with inner and outer pressure of being single. But I was curious, what is the number one struggle they are facing as singles. So I’ve asked my readers what is bothering them the […]


Single Is the New Black Review

THE REVIEW I have to admit I was a little annoyed when I started to read Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell’s book Single Is the New Black: Don’t Wear White ‘Till It’s Right. No Kindle version? That’s odd. On few occasions I even found myself poking the words in hope a dictionary would appear. With that […]


The Wishing Well

Once upon a time there was a well located right between two villages. It was told its water had magical powers, and the dwellers of both villages were coming to the well to ladle it. But God forbid they would meet! The dwellers of Upwood and Downwood were determined opponents. Why? No one knows, as […]

How to Recognize Your Date Is Not Interested in You

Some time ago I found out the man I had crush on was gay. What? Really? But how? He was sooo flirting with me! Apparently everybody knew he is gay but me. For two years I occupied myself with him, imagining how it would be if we were together, fantasizing about having sex with him. […]

How to Know You Are Truly Ready for Love

“Oh, why me!? Why nobody loves me? What is wrong with me?” I was unstoppably sobbing into a pillow for the X-th time. The pain of loneliness overran my body, while my mind was drowning in gloomy thoughts. Normally, I was OK with being single. I got used to it. That’s how it was. That’s who […]

Are You Trapped in a Singles’ Loop of Despair?

“Singles’ what??” Singles’ Loop of Despair. If you are single for quite some time now, chances are you are trapped in it. Consciously or unconsciously. But let me explain what the Singles’ Loop of Despair actually is.   The Singles’ Loop of Despair The Singles’ Loop of Despair is a concept I came up with […]

How to Overcome Your Feelings of Low Self-Worth

The following is my guest post originally published at Hello Hustle.    Was your self-worth ever compromised? Some time ago I’ve been dealing with strong feelings of low self-worth, too. I was caught in a vicious circle of self-loathing, blaming myself for that, being ashamed for being me and self-loathing even more. I was so […]

How to Wipe Out Your Shyness for Good

So, you are shy. And? “What do you mean, and?” you mumble in discontent. What does it mean that you are shy? How does it show in your life? How does it show in your relationships and with your dating efforts? Think about it. I see you don’t know how to talk to a boy […]

The No. 1 Way to Become Joyful and Happy

Would you agree feeling good is essential for obtaining a loving relationship? Simply put, if you feel good, you act in a friendly, loving and kind-hearted manner, and people react to you in the same way. On the other hand, if you feel like crap, you act like crap, and people react to you as […]

Life Lessons of a College Dropout

The following is my guest post for which I’ve joined forces with Enricoh Alfonzo Naidu from Alonzo Words.    A father kneeled before his son. He gently stroked the boy’s hair and smiled at him with pride. “You are such a good boy.” The son nodded his head, hungry for his father’s praise. He looked […]

30+ and STILL Single

Some time ago a co-worker of mine wanted me to read some interesting piece on 40+ single women and their thoughts on the matter. “Babe, why? We are thirty years old!” “Yes, but we are getting there.” Oh, c’mon, she was even younger than me! In her early thirties she was fretting about her forties. […]