I received another dating question from my reader. She wrote:
I would like to ask you a question. I’m divorced and want to get out there, but I don’t know how anymore. It’s been 11 years since I’ve dated. Where do I start?
Thank you for your question, Sheryl.
Is it really so unknown? You were once there before. Did the territory change so much that you wouldn’t recognize it?
I was dating on and off for the last 15 years, and one thing I noticed was how dating game didn’t change a bit. Sure, tools did, but the dating game itself didn’t. And listening to my aunt who is single too, I see it doesn’t matter if you are 20 or 50 – when it comes to dating you act the same.
In my opinion, dating is like riding a bicycle. Once you know how to do it you don’t forget it. You can be rusty, yes, but after two kilometres you are back on track. Trust me on this one. Just this week I cycled again after… Uh, is it 18 years already? How did that happen? I love cycling!Dating is like riding a bicycle. Once you know how to do it you don’t forget it. Click To Tweet
Anyway, my point is you don’t have to fret about not knowing how to date anymore. Just go on a date open minded and have fun, and the rest will come to you in no time.
The other question is where to start. Well, the obvious answer in 2016 would be… Online.
Online dating lost a lot of its stigma in recent years. As much as 59% of Americans think online dating is a good way to meet people. I think that too, since I’ve met my significant other this way.
Does it really work, or are there only perverts online? It works all right! Percentage of marriages in the last year in which the couple met on a dating site is 17%. Not too shabby, huh?
Go out with friends. Show up on their birthday parties, picnics, and other get-togethers. Yes, yes, you don’t feel like going. But very rarely a lover will fall into your lap while you will lie on a couch watching your favourite show.
Sometimes it happens, though. I have a friend who was renovating her home. She needed professional help, so she called a handyman. The rest is history. But the chance for that is one in a million. Do you feel lucky enough?
Attend the events you are interested in, for example art exhibit openings, book readings, wine routes, medieval or other thematic days and so on. I think that is a wonderful way to meet people who share your interests, which is vital for forming a lasting relationship.
Another great way to meet people with common interests. Language course, dance class, cooking class, scuba diving… Uuu, Toastmasters meetings, if you want to practice public speaking.
Wonderful opportunities for meeting the love of your life and forming lasting friendships. Plus you learn new things along the way!
At a local gym, jogging in the park, or hiking. But be sure exercise is your thing, though. Otherwise you will land on a sport enthusiast and you will have to jog E.V.E.RY. S.I.N.G.L.E. D.A.Y. For the rest of your life. Are you ready for that?
Dog parks are not very popular in my country. Actually, we don’t have a lot of them. But I saw one nice dog park when I was visiting Sydney. It has a little dog bar where dogs can get dog cappuccino and dog biscuits and all sorts of other dog snacks, but also humans can get a cup of coffee. There is a perfect setting to meet new people.
Events for Singles
Speed dating, match dating, dance classes for singles, cruises for singles… The sky is the limit! I always had a lot of fun on these events, but I found out not all people were so comfortable. I asked my single friend why, and she replied she felt ashamed to be single. Nothing to be ashamed about, everybody is single there!
Sheryl, I hope you got some interesting idea for yourself. The most important thing is that you have fun whatever you choose. Keep us posted!
My lovely, do you have another suggestion for Sheryl? Share it with us in the comments below.