I Have Never Approached a Girl

The question Brandon sent me is one of the most frequently asked questions on social media. Here it is:

I have never approached a girl in my life and my friends are mocking me because of that. Please, help me out. Brandon


Hi, Brandon! I’m not really sure what your problem is. Is it that you’ve never approached a girl, or that your friends are mocking you about that?

Either way, you should boost your self-esteem a little. Focus on your strengths instead on your weaknesses. What is it that you’re good at? What did you achieve? What did you do to help others, to make them happy? Are you kind to others? Are you a volunteer? What is it that you can be proud of? Focus on that, and day by day your self-esteem will grow.

Do more of what you love, too. That way you will become more joyful and content with who you are. Girls will notice that. Why? Because it’s attractive! Then they will come to you. Besides, doing what you love you can meet a girl who shares your interests. Isn’t that great?

Your friends are probably just playing and don’t mean to be insulting to you. When you become confident you won’t be bothered with what they say anymore. You will laugh with them, because you will know they are wrong.

You can read more on how to kiss your shyness goodbye here, and how to tackle feelings of low self-worth here.

Good luck and keep in touch!


My beautiful readers, what would you advise to Brandon? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below!



  1. Yes. Confidence (not cockiness) is everything. I fell in love with the guy that grabbed me by the hips and planted one on me. Not that I recommend that at first. But I loved that he had the confidence to know when it was time to make a move! 🙂

  2. Confidence is key, BUT tell your friends to stick it! You’ll do what you’re comfortable with and if you haven’t been comfortable yet, just work on that.

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